A very good read.
AM I WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?
During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her
so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she
answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the
chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author.
Here's the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with
your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like
their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a
completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO
anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.
People in
love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It
implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then
something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and
spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being
together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY
relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother
(if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens),
and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will
notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in
love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this
point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right
person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had,
you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when
relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all.
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