Monday, May 5, 2014
Etika sebelum dimulai UN
1. Berdoalah sebelum dimulai
2. Isi kolom nama dg nama asli, bukan nama pesbuk *alay* s2perti "vierrycayank kamyuclalu"
3. Isi jenis kelamin. Bukan digambar
4. Gunakan pensil 2B. Inget, 2B. Bukan 36B kegedean
5. Kalo mau nyontek, tulis dipaha sendiri. Bukan dipaha temennya. Apalagi di paha pengawas
6. Kalo ada soal yang sulit jangan bilang, cukup lambaikan ke kamera
7. Jangan sekali kali ketika pengawas bilang " ya, waktunya habis" kalian jawab "masbuloh (Masalah buat loh ?)"
Sunday, May 4, 2014
Saturday, May 3, 2014
把对别人的好当成是泼出去的水不求回报。
把别人对你的好当成是寒天的外套试试感恩。
bǎ duì biéren de hǎo dàngchéng shì pōchūqùdeshuǐ bù qiú huíbào。
bǎ biéren duì nǐ de hǎo dàngchéng shì hántiān de wàitào shì shì gǎn'ēn。
Menganggap kebaikan kita kepada orang lain sebagai air yang tumpah, tidak memohon balasan.
Menganggap kebaikan orang lain kepada kita sebagai mantel di musim dingin, setiap saat disyukuri.
Friday, May 2, 2014
20 THINGS TO START DOING IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
Family isn’t always blood. They’re the people in your life who appreciate having you in theirs – the ones who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways, and who not only embrace who you are now, but also embrace and embody who you want to be. These people – your real family – are the ones who truly matter.
Here are twenty tips to help you find and foster these special relationships.
1. FREE YOURSELF FROM NEGATIVE PEOPLE.
Spend time with nice people who are smart, driven and likeminded. Relationships should help you, not hurt you. Surround yourself with people who reflect the person you want to be. Choose friends who you are proud to know, people you admire, who love and respect you – people who make your day a little brighter simply by being in it. Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. When you free yourself from negative people, you free yourself to be YOU – and being YOU is the only way to truly live.
2. LET GO OF THOSE WHO ARE ALREADY GONE.
The sad truth is that there are some people who will only be there for you as long as you have something they need. When you no longer serve a purpose to them, they will leave. The good news is, if you tough it out, you’ll eventually weed these people out of your life and be left with some great people you can count on. We rarely lose friends and lovers, we just gradually figure out who our real ones are. So when people walk away from you, let them go. Your destiny is never tied to anyone who leaves you. It doesn’t mean they are bad people; it just means that their part in your story is over.
3. GIVE PEOPLE YOU DON’T KNOW A FAIR CHANCE.
When you look at a person, any person, remember that everyone has a story. Everyone hasgone through something that has changed them, and forced them to grow. Every passing face on the street represents a story every bit as compelling and complicated as yours. We meet no ordinary people in our lives. If you give them a chance, everyone has something amazing to offer. So appreciate the possibility of new relationships as you naturally let go of old ones that no longer work. Trust your judgment. Embrace new relationships, knowing that you are entering into unfamiliar territory. Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet someone that might just change your life forever.
4. SHOW EVERYONE KINDNESS AND RESPECT.
Treat everyone with kindness and respect, even those who are rude to you – not because they are nice, but because you are. There are no boundaries or classes that define a group of people that deserve to be respected. Treat everyone with the same level of respect you would give to your grandfather and the same level of patience you would have with your baby brother. People will notice your kindness.
5. ACCEPT PEOPLE JUST THE WAY THEY ARE.
In most cases it’s impossible to change them anyway, and it’s rude to try. So save yourself from needless stress. Instead of trying to change others, give them your support and lead by example.
6. ENCOURAGE OTHERS AND CHEER FOR THEM.
Having an appreciation for how amazing the people around you are leads to good places – productive, fulfilling, peaceful places. So be happy for those who are making progress. Cheer for their victories. Be thankful for their blessings, openly. What goes around comes around, and sooner or later the people you’re cheering for will start cheering for you.
7. BE YOUR IMPERFECTLY PERFECT SELF.
In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, find the courage to keep being your awesome self. And when they laugh at you for being different, laugh back at them for being the same. Spend more time with those who make you smile and less time with those who you feel pressured to impress. Be your imperfectly perfect self around them. We are not perfect for everyone, we are only perfect for those select few people that really take the time to get to know us and love us for who we really are. And to those select few, being our imperfectly perfect self is what they love about us.
8. FORGIVE PEOPLE AND MOVE FORWARD.
Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the remedy. It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life. Remember, the less time you spend hating the people who hurt you, the more time you’ll have to love the people who love you.
9. DO LITTLE THINGS EVERY DAY FOR OTHERS.
Sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts. You can’t be everything to everyone, but you can be everything to a few people. Decide who these people are in your life and treat them like royalty.
10. PAY ATTENTION TO WHO YOUR REAL FRIENDS ARE.
As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones. Remember, life is kind of like a party. You invite a lot of people, some leave early, some stay all night, some laugh with you, some laugh at you, and some show up really late. But in the end, after the fun, there are a few who stay to help you clean up the mess. And most of the time, they aren’t even the ones who made the mess. These people are your real friends in life. They are the ones who matter most.
11. ALWAYS BE LOYAL.
True love and real friendship aren’t about being inseparable. These relationships are about two people being true to each other even when they are separated. When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option, but a priority. Loyalty is everything.
12. STAY IN BETTER TOUCH WITH PEOPLE WHO MATTER TO YOU.
In human relationships distance is not measured in miles, but in affection. Two people can be right next to each other, yet miles apart. So don’t ignore someone you care about, because lack of concern hurts more than angry words. Stay in touch with those who matter to you. Not because it’s convenient, but because they’re worth the extra effort. Remember, you don’t need a certain number of friends, just a number of friends you can be certain of. Paying attention to these people is a priority.
13. KEEP YOUR PROMISES AND TELL THE TRUTH.
If you say you’re going to do something, DO IT! If you say you’re going to be somewhere, BE THERE! If you say you feel something, MEAN IT! If you can’t, won’t, and don’t, then DON’T LIE. It’s always better to tell people the truth up front. Don’t play games with people’s heads and hearts. Don’t tell half-truths and expect people to trust you when the full truth comes out; half-truths are no better than lies. Remember, love and friendship don’t hurt. Lying, cheating and screwing with people’s feelings and emotions hurts. Never mess with someone’s feelings just because you’re unsure of yours. Always be open and honest.
14. GIVE WHAT YOU WANT TO RECEIVE.
Don’t expect what you are not willing to give. Start practicing the golden rule. If you want love, give love. If you want friends, be friendly. If you want money, provide value. It works. It really is this simple.
15. SAY WHAT YOU MEAN AND MEAN WHAT YOU SAY.
Give the people in your life the information they need, rather than expecting them to know the unknowable. Information is the grease that keeps the engine of communication functioning. Start communicating clearly. Don’t try to read other people’s minds, and don’t make other people try to read yours. Most problems, big and small, within a family, friendship, or business relationships, start with bad communication.
16. ALLOW OTHERS TO MAKE THEIR OWN DECISIONS.
Do not judge others by your own past. They are living a different life than you are. What might be good for one person may not be good for another. What might be bad for one person might change another person’s life for the better. Allow people to make their own mistakes and their own decisions.
17. TALK A LITTLE LESS, AND LISTEN MORE.
Less advice is often the best advice. People don’t need lots of advice, they need a listening ear and some positive reinforcement. What they want to know is often already somewhere inside of them. They just need time to think, be and breathe, and continue to explore the undirected journeys that will eventually help them find their direction.
18. LEAVE PETTY ARGUMENTS ALONE.
Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right. There are many roads to what’s right. And most of the time it just doesn’t matter that much.
19. IGNORE UNCONSTRUCTIVE, HURTFUL COMMENTARY.
No one has the right to judge you. They might have heard your stories, but they didn’t feel what you were going through. No matter what you do, there will always be someone who thinks differently. So concentrate on doing what you know in your heart is right. What most people think and say about you isn’t all that important. What is important is how you feel about yourself.
20. PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF.
One of the most painful things in life is losing yourself in the process of loving others too much, and forgetting that you are special too. When was the last time someone told you that they loved you just the way you are, and that what you think and how you feel matters? When was the last time someone told you that you did a good job, or took you someplace, simply because they know you feel happy when you’re there? When was the last time that ‘someone’ was YOU?
Sumber : http://www.trulymind.com/20-things-to-start-doing-in-your-relationships/
Family
isn’t always blood. They’re the people in your life who appreciate
having you in theirs – the ones who encourage you to improve in healthy
and exciting ways, and who not only embrace who you are now, but also
embrace and embody who you want to be. These people – your real family –
are the ones who truly matter.
Here are twenty tips to help you find and foster these special relationships.
- See more at: http://www.trulymind.com/20-things-to-start-doing-in-your-relationships/#sthash.HZKhBoGT.dpuf
Here are twenty tips to help you find and foster these special relationships.
1. FREE YOURSELF FROM NEGATIVE PEOPLE.
Spend time with nice people who are smart, driven and likeminded. Relationships should help you, not hurt you. Surround yourself with people who reflect the person you want to be. Choose friends who you are proud to know, people you admire, who love and respect you – people who make your day a little brighter simply by being in it. Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. When you free yourself from negative people, you free yourself to be YOU – and being YOU is the only way to truly live.2. LET GO OF THOSE WHO ARE ALREADY GONE.
The sad truth is that there are some people who will only be there for you as long as you have something they need. When you no longer serve a purpose to them, they will leave. The good news is, if you tough it out, you’ll eventually weed these people out of your life and be left with some great people you can count on. We rarely lose friends and lovers, we just gradually figure out who our real ones are. So when people walk away from you, let them go. Your destiny is never tied to anyone who leaves you. It doesn’t mean they are bad people; it just means that their part in your story is over.3. GIVE PEOPLE YOU DON’T KNOW A FAIR CHANCE.
When you look at a person, any person, remember that everyone has a story. Everyone hasgone through something that has changed them, and forced them to grow. Every passing face on the street represents a story every bit as compelling and complicated as yours. We meet no ordinary people in our lives. If you give them a chance, everyone has something amazing to offer. So appreciate the possibility of new relationships as you naturally let go of old ones that no longer work. Trust your judgment. Embrace new relationships, knowing that you are entering into unfamiliar territory. Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet someone that might just change your life forever.4. SHOW EVERYONE KINDNESS AND RESPECT.
Treat everyone with kindness and respect, even those who are rude to you – not because they are nice, but because you are. There are no boundaries or classes that define a group of people that deserve to be respected. Treat everyone with the same level of respect you would give to your grandfather and the same level of patience you would have with your baby brother. People will notice your kindness.5. ACCEPT PEOPLE JUST THE WAY THEY ARE.
In most cases it’s impossible to change them anyway, and it’s rude to try. So save yourself from needless stress. Instead of trying to change others, give them your support and lead by example.6. ENCOURAGE OTHERS AND CHEER FOR THEM.
Having an appreciation for how amazing the people around you are leads to good places – productive, fulfilling, peaceful places. So be happy for those who are making progress. Cheer for their victories. Be thankful for their blessings, openly. What goes around comes around, and sooner or later the people you’re cheering for will start cheering for you.7. BE YOUR IMPERFECTLY PERFECT SELF.
In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, find the courage to keep being your awesome self. And when they laugh at you for being different, laugh back at them for being the same. Spend more time with those who make you smile and less time with those who you feel pressured to impress. Be your imperfectly perfect self around them. We are not perfect for everyone, we are only perfect for those select few people that really take the time to get to know us and love us for who we really are. And to those select few, being our imperfectly perfect self is what they love about us.8. FORGIVE PEOPLE AND MOVE FORWARD.
Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the remedy. It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life. Remember, the less time you spend hating the people who hurt you, the more time you’ll have to love the people who love you.9. DO LITTLE THINGS EVERY DAY FOR OTHERS.
Sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts. You can’t be everything to everyone, but you can be everything to a few people. Decide who these people are in your life and treat them like royalty.10. PAY ATTENTION TO WHO YOUR REAL FRIENDS ARE.
As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones. Remember, life is kind of like a party. You invite a lot of people, some leave early, some stay all night, some laugh with you, some laugh at you, and some show up really late. But in the end, after the fun, there are a few who stay to help you clean up the mess. And most of the time, they aren’t even the ones who made the mess. These people are your real friends in life. They are the ones who matter most.11. ALWAYS BE LOYAL.
True love and real friendship aren’t about being inseparable. These relationships are about two people being true to each other even when they are separated. When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option, but a priority. Loyalty is everything.12. STAY IN BETTER TOUCH WITH PEOPLE WHO MATTER TO YOU.
In human relationships distance is not measured in miles, but in affection. Two people can be right next to each other, yet miles apart. So don’t ignore someone you care about, because lack of concern hurts more than angry words. Stay in touch with those who matter to you. Not because it’s convenient, but because they’re worth the extra effort. Remember, you don’t need a certain number of friends, just a number of friends you can be certain of. Paying attention to these people is a priority.13. KEEP YOUR PROMISES AND TELL THE TRUTH.
If you say you’re going to do something, DO IT! If you say you’re going to be somewhere, BE THERE! If you say you feel something, MEAN IT! If you can’t, won’t, and don’t, then DON’T LIE. It’s always better to tell people the truth up front. Don’t play games with people’s heads and hearts. Don’t tell half-truths and expect people to trust you when the full truth comes out; half-truths are no better than lies. Remember, love and friendship don’t hurt. Lying, cheating and screwing with people’s feelings and emotions hurts. Never mess with someone’s feelings just because you’re unsure of yours. Always be open and honest.14. GIVE WHAT YOU WANT TO RECEIVE.
Don’t expect what you are not willing to give. Start practicing the golden rule. If you want love, give love. If you want friends, be friendly. If you want money, provide value. It works. It really is this simple.15. SAY WHAT YOU MEAN AND MEAN WHAT YOU SAY.
Give the people in your life the information they need, rather than expecting them to know the unknowable. Information is the grease that keeps the engine of communication functioning. Start communicating clearly. Don’t try to read other people’s minds, and don’t make other people try to read yours. Most problems, big and small, within a family, friendship, or business relationships, start with bad communication.16. ALLOW OTHERS TO MAKE THEIR OWN DECISIONS.
Do not judge others by your own past. They are living a different life than you are. What might be good for one person may not be good for another. What might be bad for one person might change another person’s life for the better. Allow people to make their own mistakes and their own decisions.17. TALK A LITTLE LESS, AND LISTEN MORE.
Less advice is often the best advice. People don’t need lots of advice, they need a listening ear and some positive reinforcement. What they want to know is often already somewhere inside of them. They just need time to think, be and breathe, and continue to explore the undirected journeys that will eventually help them find their direction.18. LEAVE PETTY ARGUMENTS ALONE.
Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right. There are many roads to what’s right. And most of the time it just doesn’t matter that much.19. IGNORE UNCONSTRUCTIVE, HURTFUL COMMENTARY.
No one has the right to judge you. They might have heard your stories, but they didn’t feel what you were going through. No matter what you do, there will always be someone who thinks differently. So concentrate on doing what you know in your heart is right. What most people think and say about you isn’t all that important. What is important is how you feel about yourself.20. PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF.
One of the most painful things in life is losing yourself in the process of loving others too much, and forgetting that you are special too. When was the last time someone told you that they loved you just the way you are, and that what you think and how you feel matters? When was the last time someone told you that you did a good job, or took you someplace, simply because they know you feel happy when you’re there? When was the last time that ‘someone’ was YOU?- See more at: http://www.trulymind.com/20-things-to-start-doing-in-your-relationships/#sthash.HZKhBoGT.dpuf
Family
isn’t always blood. They’re the people in your life who appreciate
having you in theirs – the ones who encourage you to improve in healthy
and exciting ways, and who not only embrace who you are now, but also
embrace and embody who you want to be. These people – your real family –
are the ones who truly matter.
Here are twenty tips to help you find and foster these special relationships.
- See more at: http://www.trulymind.com/20-things-to-start-doing-in-your-relationships/#sthash.HZKhBoGT.dpuf
Here are twenty tips to help you find and foster these special relationships.
1. FREE YOURSELF FROM NEGATIVE PEOPLE.
Spend time with nice people who are smart, driven and likeminded. Relationships should help you, not hurt you. Surround yourself with people who reflect the person you want to be. Choose friends who you are proud to know, people you admire, who love and respect you – people who make your day a little brighter simply by being in it. Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. When you free yourself from negative people, you free yourself to be YOU – and being YOU is the only way to truly live.2. LET GO OF THOSE WHO ARE ALREADY GONE.
The sad truth is that there are some people who will only be there for you as long as you have something they need. When you no longer serve a purpose to them, they will leave. The good news is, if you tough it out, you’ll eventually weed these people out of your life and be left with some great people you can count on. We rarely lose friends and lovers, we just gradually figure out who our real ones are. So when people walk away from you, let them go. Your destiny is never tied to anyone who leaves you. It doesn’t mean they are bad people; it just means that their part in your story is over.3. GIVE PEOPLE YOU DON’T KNOW A FAIR CHANCE.
When you look at a person, any person, remember that everyone has a story. Everyone hasgone through something that has changed them, and forced them to grow. Every passing face on the street represents a story every bit as compelling and complicated as yours. We meet no ordinary people in our lives. If you give them a chance, everyone has something amazing to offer. So appreciate the possibility of new relationships as you naturally let go of old ones that no longer work. Trust your judgment. Embrace new relationships, knowing that you are entering into unfamiliar territory. Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet someone that might just change your life forever.4. SHOW EVERYONE KINDNESS AND RESPECT.
Treat everyone with kindness and respect, even those who are rude to you – not because they are nice, but because you are. There are no boundaries or classes that define a group of people that deserve to be respected. Treat everyone with the same level of respect you would give to your grandfather and the same level of patience you would have with your baby brother. People will notice your kindness.5. ACCEPT PEOPLE JUST THE WAY THEY ARE.
In most cases it’s impossible to change them anyway, and it’s rude to try. So save yourself from needless stress. Instead of trying to change others, give them your support and lead by example.6. ENCOURAGE OTHERS AND CHEER FOR THEM.
Having an appreciation for how amazing the people around you are leads to good places – productive, fulfilling, peaceful places. So be happy for those who are making progress. Cheer for their victories. Be thankful for their blessings, openly. What goes around comes around, and sooner or later the people you’re cheering for will start cheering for you.7. BE YOUR IMPERFECTLY PERFECT SELF.
In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, find the courage to keep being your awesome self. And when they laugh at you for being different, laugh back at them for being the same. Spend more time with those who make you smile and less time with those who you feel pressured to impress. Be your imperfectly perfect self around them. We are not perfect for everyone, we are only perfect for those select few people that really take the time to get to know us and love us for who we really are. And to those select few, being our imperfectly perfect self is what they love about us.8. FORGIVE PEOPLE AND MOVE FORWARD.
Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the remedy. It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life. Remember, the less time you spend hating the people who hurt you, the more time you’ll have to love the people who love you.9. DO LITTLE THINGS EVERY DAY FOR OTHERS.
Sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts. You can’t be everything to everyone, but you can be everything to a few people. Decide who these people are in your life and treat them like royalty.10. PAY ATTENTION TO WHO YOUR REAL FRIENDS ARE.
As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones. Remember, life is kind of like a party. You invite a lot of people, some leave early, some stay all night, some laugh with you, some laugh at you, and some show up really late. But in the end, after the fun, there are a few who stay to help you clean up the mess. And most of the time, they aren’t even the ones who made the mess. These people are your real friends in life. They are the ones who matter most.11. ALWAYS BE LOYAL.
True love and real friendship aren’t about being inseparable. These relationships are about two people being true to each other even when they are separated. When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option, but a priority. Loyalty is everything.12. STAY IN BETTER TOUCH WITH PEOPLE WHO MATTER TO YOU.
In human relationships distance is not measured in miles, but in affection. Two people can be right next to each other, yet miles apart. So don’t ignore someone you care about, because lack of concern hurts more than angry words. Stay in touch with those who matter to you. Not because it’s convenient, but because they’re worth the extra effort. Remember, you don’t need a certain number of friends, just a number of friends you can be certain of. Paying attention to these people is a priority.13. KEEP YOUR PROMISES AND TELL THE TRUTH.
If you say you’re going to do something, DO IT! If you say you’re going to be somewhere, BE THERE! If you say you feel something, MEAN IT! If you can’t, won’t, and don’t, then DON’T LIE. It’s always better to tell people the truth up front. Don’t play games with people’s heads and hearts. Don’t tell half-truths and expect people to trust you when the full truth comes out; half-truths are no better than lies. Remember, love and friendship don’t hurt. Lying, cheating and screwing with people’s feelings and emotions hurts. Never mess with someone’s feelings just because you’re unsure of yours. Always be open and honest.14. GIVE WHAT YOU WANT TO RECEIVE.
Don’t expect what you are not willing to give. Start practicing the golden rule. If you want love, give love. If you want friends, be friendly. If you want money, provide value. It works. It really is this simple.15. SAY WHAT YOU MEAN AND MEAN WHAT YOU SAY.
Give the people in your life the information they need, rather than expecting them to know the unknowable. Information is the grease that keeps the engine of communication functioning. Start communicating clearly. Don’t try to read other people’s minds, and don’t make other people try to read yours. Most problems, big and small, within a family, friendship, or business relationships, start with bad communication.16. ALLOW OTHERS TO MAKE THEIR OWN DECISIONS.
Do not judge others by your own past. They are living a different life than you are. What might be good for one person may not be good for another. What might be bad for one person might change another person’s life for the better. Allow people to make their own mistakes and their own decisions.17. TALK A LITTLE LESS, AND LISTEN MORE.
Less advice is often the best advice. People don’t need lots of advice, they need a listening ear and some positive reinforcement. What they want to know is often already somewhere inside of them. They just need time to think, be and breathe, and continue to explore the undirected journeys that will eventually help them find their direction.18. LEAVE PETTY ARGUMENTS ALONE.
Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right. There are many roads to what’s right. And most of the time it just doesn’t matter that much.19. IGNORE UNCONSTRUCTIVE, HURTFUL COMMENTARY.
No one has the right to judge you. They might have heard your stories, but they didn’t feel what you were going through. No matter what you do, there will always be someone who thinks differently. So concentrate on doing what you know in your heart is right. What most people think and say about you isn’t all that important. What is important is how you feel about yourself.20. PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF.
One of the most painful things in life is losing yourself in the process of loving others too much, and forgetting that you are special too. When was the last time someone told you that they loved you just the way you are, and that what you think and how you feel matters? When was the last time someone told you that you did a good job, or took you someplace, simply because they know you feel happy when you’re there? When was the last time that ‘someone’ was YOU?- See more at: http://www.trulymind.com/20-things-to-start-doing-in-your-relationships/#sthash.HZKhBoGT.dpuf
Family
isn’t always blood. They’re the people in your life who appreciate
having you in theirs – the ones who encourage you to improve in healthy
and exciting ways, and who not only embrace who you are now, but also
embrace and embody who you want to be. These people – your real family –
are the ones who truly matter.
Here are twenty tips to help you find and foster these special relationships.
- See more at: http://www.trulymind.com/20-things-to-start-doing-in-your-relationships/#sthash.HZKhBoGT.dpuf
Here are twenty tips to help you find and foster these special relationships.
1. FREE YOURSELF FROM NEGATIVE PEOPLE.
Spend time with nice people who are smart, driven and likeminded. Relationships should help you, not hurt you. Surround yourself with people who reflect the person you want to be. Choose friends who you are proud to know, people you admire, who love and respect you – people who make your day a little brighter simply by being in it. Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. When you free yourself from negative people, you free yourself to be YOU – and being YOU is the only way to truly live.2. LET GO OF THOSE WHO ARE ALREADY GONE.
The sad truth is that there are some people who will only be there for you as long as you have something they need. When you no longer serve a purpose to them, they will leave. The good news is, if you tough it out, you’ll eventually weed these people out of your life and be left with some great people you can count on. We rarely lose friends and lovers, we just gradually figure out who our real ones are. So when people walk away from you, let them go. Your destiny is never tied to anyone who leaves you. It doesn’t mean they are bad people; it just means that their part in your story is over.3. GIVE PEOPLE YOU DON’T KNOW A FAIR CHANCE.
When you look at a person, any person, remember that everyone has a story. Everyone hasgone through something that has changed them, and forced them to grow. Every passing face on the street represents a story every bit as compelling and complicated as yours. We meet no ordinary people in our lives. If you give them a chance, everyone has something amazing to offer. So appreciate the possibility of new relationships as you naturally let go of old ones that no longer work. Trust your judgment. Embrace new relationships, knowing that you are entering into unfamiliar territory. Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet someone that might just change your life forever.4. SHOW EVERYONE KINDNESS AND RESPECT.
Treat everyone with kindness and respect, even those who are rude to you – not because they are nice, but because you are. There are no boundaries or classes that define a group of people that deserve to be respected. Treat everyone with the same level of respect you would give to your grandfather and the same level of patience you would have with your baby brother. People will notice your kindness.5. ACCEPT PEOPLE JUST THE WAY THEY ARE.
In most cases it’s impossible to change them anyway, and it’s rude to try. So save yourself from needless stress. Instead of trying to change others, give them your support and lead by example.6. ENCOURAGE OTHERS AND CHEER FOR THEM.
Having an appreciation for how amazing the people around you are leads to good places – productive, fulfilling, peaceful places. So be happy for those who are making progress. Cheer for their victories. Be thankful for their blessings, openly. What goes around comes around, and sooner or later the people you’re cheering for will start cheering for you.7. BE YOUR IMPERFECTLY PERFECT SELF.
In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, find the courage to keep being your awesome self. And when they laugh at you for being different, laugh back at them for being the same. Spend more time with those who make you smile and less time with those who you feel pressured to impress. Be your imperfectly perfect self around them. We are not perfect for everyone, we are only perfect for those select few people that really take the time to get to know us and love us for who we really are. And to those select few, being our imperfectly perfect self is what they love about us.8. FORGIVE PEOPLE AND MOVE FORWARD.
Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the remedy. It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life. Remember, the less time you spend hating the people who hurt you, the more time you’ll have to love the people who love you.9. DO LITTLE THINGS EVERY DAY FOR OTHERS.
Sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts. You can’t be everything to everyone, but you can be everything to a few people. Decide who these people are in your life and treat them like royalty.10. PAY ATTENTION TO WHO YOUR REAL FRIENDS ARE.
As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones. Remember, life is kind of like a party. You invite a lot of people, some leave early, some stay all night, some laugh with you, some laugh at you, and some show up really late. But in the end, after the fun, there are a few who stay to help you clean up the mess. And most of the time, they aren’t even the ones who made the mess. These people are your real friends in life. They are the ones who matter most.11. ALWAYS BE LOYAL.
True love and real friendship aren’t about being inseparable. These relationships are about two people being true to each other even when they are separated. When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option, but a priority. Loyalty is everything.12. STAY IN BETTER TOUCH WITH PEOPLE WHO MATTER TO YOU.
In human relationships distance is not measured in miles, but in affection. Two people can be right next to each other, yet miles apart. So don’t ignore someone you care about, because lack of concern hurts more than angry words. Stay in touch with those who matter to you. Not because it’s convenient, but because they’re worth the extra effort. Remember, you don’t need a certain number of friends, just a number of friends you can be certain of. Paying attention to these people is a priority.13. KEEP YOUR PROMISES AND TELL THE TRUTH.
If you say you’re going to do something, DO IT! If you say you’re going to be somewhere, BE THERE! If you say you feel something, MEAN IT! If you can’t, won’t, and don’t, then DON’T LIE. It’s always better to tell people the truth up front. Don’t play games with people’s heads and hearts. Don’t tell half-truths and expect people to trust you when the full truth comes out; half-truths are no better than lies. Remember, love and friendship don’t hurt. Lying, cheating and screwing with people’s feelings and emotions hurts. Never mess with someone’s feelings just because you’re unsure of yours. Always be open and honest.14. GIVE WHAT YOU WANT TO RECEIVE.
Don’t expect what you are not willing to give. Start practicing the golden rule. If you want love, give love. If you want friends, be friendly. If you want money, provide value. It works. It really is this simple.15. SAY WHAT YOU MEAN AND MEAN WHAT YOU SAY.
Give the people in your life the information they need, rather than expecting them to know the unknowable. Information is the grease that keeps the engine of communication functioning. Start communicating clearly. Don’t try to read other people’s minds, and don’t make other people try to read yours. Most problems, big and small, within a family, friendship, or business relationships, start with bad communication.16. ALLOW OTHERS TO MAKE THEIR OWN DECISIONS.
Do not judge others by your own past. They are living a different life than you are. What might be good for one person may not be good for another. What might be bad for one person might change another person’s life for the better. Allow people to make their own mistakes and their own decisions.17. TALK A LITTLE LESS, AND LISTEN MORE.
Less advice is often the best advice. People don’t need lots of advice, they need a listening ear and some positive reinforcement. What they want to know is often already somewhere inside of them. They just need time to think, be and breathe, and continue to explore the undirected journeys that will eventually help them find their direction.18. LEAVE PETTY ARGUMENTS ALONE.
Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right. There are many roads to what’s right. And most of the time it just doesn’t matter that much.19. IGNORE UNCONSTRUCTIVE, HURTFUL COMMENTARY.
No one has the right to judge you. They might have heard your stories, but they didn’t feel what you were going through. No matter what you do, there will always be someone who thinks differently. So concentrate on doing what you know in your heart is right. What most people think and say about you isn’t all that important. What is important is how you feel about yourself.20. PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF.
One of the most painful things in life is losing yourself in the process of loving others too much, and forgetting that you are special too. When was the last time someone told you that they loved you just the way you are, and that what you think and how you feel matters? When was the last time someone told you that you did a good job, or took you someplace, simply because they know you feel happy when you’re there? When was the last time that ‘someone’ was YOU?- See more at: http://www.trulymind.com/20-things-to-start-doing-in-your-relationships/#sthash.HZKhBoGT.dpuf
Family
isn’t always blood. They’re the people in your life who appreciate
having you in theirs – the ones who encourage you to improve in healthy
and exciting ways, and who not only embrace who you are now, but also
embrace and embody who you want to be. These people – your real family –
are the ones who truly matter.
Here are twenty tips to help you find and foster these special relationships.
- See more at: http://www.trulymind.com/20-things-to-start-doing-in-your-relationships/#sthash.HZKhBoGT.dpuf
Here are twenty tips to help you find and foster these special relationships.
1. FREE YOURSELF FROM NEGATIVE PEOPLE.
Spend time with nice people who are smart, driven and likeminded. Relationships should help you, not hurt you. Surround yourself with people who reflect the person you want to be. Choose friends who you are proud to know, people you admire, who love and respect you – people who make your day a little brighter simply by being in it. Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. When you free yourself from negative people, you free yourself to be YOU – and being YOU is the only way to truly live.2. LET GO OF THOSE WHO ARE ALREADY GONE.
The sad truth is that there are some people who will only be there for you as long as you have something they need. When you no longer serve a purpose to them, they will leave. The good news is, if you tough it out, you’ll eventually weed these people out of your life and be left with some great people you can count on. We rarely lose friends and lovers, we just gradually figure out who our real ones are. So when people walk away from you, let them go. Your destiny is never tied to anyone who leaves you. It doesn’t mean they are bad people; it just means that their part in your story is over.3. GIVE PEOPLE YOU DON’T KNOW A FAIR CHANCE.
When you look at a person, any person, remember that everyone has a story. Everyone hasgone through something that has changed them, and forced them to grow. Every passing face on the street represents a story every bit as compelling and complicated as yours. We meet no ordinary people in our lives. If you give them a chance, everyone has something amazing to offer. So appreciate the possibility of new relationships as you naturally let go of old ones that no longer work. Trust your judgment. Embrace new relationships, knowing that you are entering into unfamiliar territory. Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet someone that might just change your life forever.4. SHOW EVERYONE KINDNESS AND RESPECT.
Treat everyone with kindness and respect, even those who are rude to you – not because they are nice, but because you are. There are no boundaries or classes that define a group of people that deserve to be respected. Treat everyone with the same level of respect you would give to your grandfather and the same level of patience you would have with your baby brother. People will notice your kindness.5. ACCEPT PEOPLE JUST THE WAY THEY ARE.
In most cases it’s impossible to change them anyway, and it’s rude to try. So save yourself from needless stress. Instead of trying to change others, give them your support and lead by example.6. ENCOURAGE OTHERS AND CHEER FOR THEM.
Having an appreciation for how amazing the people around you are leads to good places – productive, fulfilling, peaceful places. So be happy for those who are making progress. Cheer for their victories. Be thankful for their blessings, openly. What goes around comes around, and sooner or later the people you’re cheering for will start cheering for you.7. BE YOUR IMPERFECTLY PERFECT SELF.
In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, find the courage to keep being your awesome self. And when they laugh at you for being different, laugh back at them for being the same. Spend more time with those who make you smile and less time with those who you feel pressured to impress. Be your imperfectly perfect self around them. We are not perfect for everyone, we are only perfect for those select few people that really take the time to get to know us and love us for who we really are. And to those select few, being our imperfectly perfect self is what they love about us.8. FORGIVE PEOPLE AND MOVE FORWARD.
Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the remedy. It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life. Remember, the less time you spend hating the people who hurt you, the more time you’ll have to love the people who love you.9. DO LITTLE THINGS EVERY DAY FOR OTHERS.
Sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts. You can’t be everything to everyone, but you can be everything to a few people. Decide who these people are in your life and treat them like royalty.10. PAY ATTENTION TO WHO YOUR REAL FRIENDS ARE.
As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones. Remember, life is kind of like a party. You invite a lot of people, some leave early, some stay all night, some laugh with you, some laugh at you, and some show up really late. But in the end, after the fun, there are a few who stay to help you clean up the mess. And most of the time, they aren’t even the ones who made the mess. These people are your real friends in life. They are the ones who matter most.11. ALWAYS BE LOYAL.
True love and real friendship aren’t about being inseparable. These relationships are about two people being true to each other even when they are separated. When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option, but a priority. Loyalty is everything.12. STAY IN BETTER TOUCH WITH PEOPLE WHO MATTER TO YOU.
In human relationships distance is not measured in miles, but in affection. Two people can be right next to each other, yet miles apart. So don’t ignore someone you care about, because lack of concern hurts more than angry words. Stay in touch with those who matter to you. Not because it’s convenient, but because they’re worth the extra effort. Remember, you don’t need a certain number of friends, just a number of friends you can be certain of. Paying attention to these people is a priority.13. KEEP YOUR PROMISES AND TELL THE TRUTH.
If you say you’re going to do something, DO IT! If you say you’re going to be somewhere, BE THERE! If you say you feel something, MEAN IT! If you can’t, won’t, and don’t, then DON’T LIE. It’s always better to tell people the truth up front. Don’t play games with people’s heads and hearts. Don’t tell half-truths and expect people to trust you when the full truth comes out; half-truths are no better than lies. Remember, love and friendship don’t hurt. Lying, cheating and screwing with people’s feelings and emotions hurts. Never mess with someone’s feelings just because you’re unsure of yours. Always be open and honest.14. GIVE WHAT YOU WANT TO RECEIVE.
Don’t expect what you are not willing to give. Start practicing the golden rule. If you want love, give love. If you want friends, be friendly. If you want money, provide value. It works. It really is this simple.15. SAY WHAT YOU MEAN AND MEAN WHAT YOU SAY.
Give the people in your life the information they need, rather than expecting them to know the unknowable. Information is the grease that keeps the engine of communication functioning. Start communicating clearly. Don’t try to read other people’s minds, and don’t make other people try to read yours. Most problems, big and small, within a family, friendship, or business relationships, start with bad communication.16. ALLOW OTHERS TO MAKE THEIR OWN DECISIONS.
Do not judge others by your own past. They are living a different life than you are. What might be good for one person may not be good for another. What might be bad for one person might change another person’s life for the better. Allow people to make their own mistakes and their own decisions.17. TALK A LITTLE LESS, AND LISTEN MORE.
Less advice is often the best advice. People don’t need lots of advice, they need a listening ear and some positive reinforcement. What they want to know is often already somewhere inside of them. They just need time to think, be and breathe, and continue to explore the undirected journeys that will eventually help them find their direction.18. LEAVE PETTY ARGUMENTS ALONE.
Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right. There are many roads to what’s right. And most of the time it just doesn’t matter that much.19. IGNORE UNCONSTRUCTIVE, HURTFUL COMMENTARY.
No one has the right to judge you. They might have heard your stories, but they didn’t feel what you were going through. No matter what you do, there will always be someone who thinks differently. So concentrate on doing what you know in your heart is right. What most people think and say about you isn’t all that important. What is important is how you feel about yourself.20. PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF.
One of the most painful things in life is losing yourself in the process of loving others too much, and forgetting that you are special too. When was the last time someone told you that they loved you just the way you are, and that what you think and how you feel matters? When was the last time someone told you that you did a good job, or took you someplace, simply because they know you feel happy when you’re there? When was the last time that ‘someone’ was YOU?- See more at: http://www.trulymind.com/20-things-to-start-doing-in-your-relationships/#sthash.HZKhBoGT.dpuf
KEBAHAGIAAN........
~ Bagi orang miskin, uang itulah kebahagiaan.
~ Bagi orang sakit, kesehatan itulah kebahagiaan.
~ Bagi pasangan lajang, pasangan hidup itulah kebahagiaan.
~ Bagi mahasiswa, gelar sarjana itulah kebahagiaan.
~ Bagi penganggur, pekerjaan itulah kebahagiaan.
~ Bagi yang kebanyakan pekerjaan, liburan itulah kebahagiaan.
~ Bagi suami istri yang setia dan penuh perhatian itulah kebahagiaan.
~ Bagi orang tua anak, berbakti itulah kebahagiaan.
~ Bagi orang buta, melihat itulah kebahagiaan.
~ Bagi pemabuk, alkohol itulah kebahagiaan.
~ Bagi ibu-ibu kaya, shopping itulah kebahagiaan.
~ Bagi selebritis, popularitas itulah kebahagiaan.
Kebahagiaan-kebahagiaan di atas sebenarnya bukanlah KEBAHAGIAAN SEJATI.
Lebih tepat adalah KESENANGAN, KEPUASAN, dan KEGEMBIRAAN yang singkat dan sementara.
KEBAHAGIAAN SEJATI hanya ada dalam KASIHNYA dan RASA SYUKUR didalam pikiran kita, yang mendatangkan SUKACITA, KEDAMAIAN dan KECERIAAN.
Think of happy thoughts , focus on what you have and not what you don't.
Let go of the un happy memories.
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Janganlah Marah Ketika Seseorang Mengkritik Kita
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Sebagaimana kita ketahui, batin sangat tidak dapat diandalkan dan seringkali berubah.
Seseorang membenci, menyukai atau mencintai kita tidak ada hubungannya dengan kita. Itu adalah pemikiran di batin orang lain.
Jika sebuah pemikiran keliru, maka kita buang. Tidaklah masuk akal untuk terus meyakini sesuatu yang baru saja terbukti keliru.
Juga sangat menolong bertanya dengan cara yang sama berkenaan emosi-emosi kita. Sebagai contoh, katakanlah kita terganggu karena seseorang mengkritik kita.
Disini silogismenya sebagai berikut "Aku marah karena dia mengkritikku." Benar, dia mengkritikku, tapi apakah aku harus menjadi marah karena seseorang mengkritikku? Tidak, aku memiliki pilihan berkenaan bagaimana aku harus merasa. Aku tidak harus menjadi marah.
Dengan kata lain, terhadap semua alasan, pikiran kita terus mengajukan pertanyaan mengapa aku harus marah,"Tetapi kenapa aku perlu menjadi seperti itu?" Saat kita merenungkan ini cukup lama, kita melihat bahwa kita marah karena menginginkan sesuatu.
Di balik kemarahan, kita mendapati bahwa kita menginginkan kasih, rasa aman, pengakuan, dukungan, pengertian, pemahaman, ruang, kreativitas, kedamaian, atau yang lainnya.
Dalam proses mempertanyakan pikiran dan perasaan kita, sangat penting untuk ramah terhadap diri sendiri. Mengkritisi diri sendiri karena marah tidaklah produktif.
Banyak orang mendapati lebih mudah untuk ramah kepada orang lain, daripada terhadap diri sendiri.
Ramah terhadap diri sendiri, bukanlah merupakan tindakan egois, ini sangat berbeda dengan memanjakan diri. Kita adalah makhluk hidup, dan di dalam agama Buddha kita ingin memiliki kasih dan welas asih untuk semua makhluk dan bekerja demi manfaat semua makhluk.
Renungkan:
Saat sedang tenggelam, maka tujuan jangka pendek Anda adalah untuk menyelamatkan diri sendiri. Tapi Anda ingin menyelamatkan yang lainnya juga. Anda tidak akan merasa pantas, jika berenang sendirian ke tepian, kemudian bersantai sementara yang lain tenggelam.
Kita merasa memiliki ikatan batin yang sedemikian kuat dengan orang-orang lain, sehingga ingin menyelamatkan mereka. Begitu pula di dalam jalan spiritual, terselesaikannya pembebasan diri sendiri sangatlah luar biasa, namun bukanlah pencapaian yang lengkap.
Dengan membayangkan bagaimana rasanya tidak pernah marah kepada siapa pun, apa pun yang mereka katakan atau lakukan kepada Anda. Bayangkanlah ini untuk sesaat, bukankah sangat indah menjadi sepenuhnya bebas dari ketakutan, kemarahan, pembelaan diri, kesombongan, kebutuhan untuk dibenarkan atau untuk menang?
Kualitas-kualitas baik kita akan berfungsi, tanpa terkotori atau terintangi oleh ketakutan, kesombongan, maupun emosi-emosi meresahkan lainnya.
Orang boleh berkata atau melakukan apa pun yang mereka mau, dan batin kita akan tetap damai dan tidak terusik. Tidak ada amarah yang perlu ditahan, semuanya akan menguap.
Begitu pula, seperti apakah rasanya jika saat memandang semua makhluk hidup, secara spontan muncul welas asih serta berharap yang terbaik bagi mereka? Bukankah akan menjadi indah, jika mampu merasakan ikatan batin dengan semua orang, serta berharap mereka dalam keadaan baik?
Inilah beberapa hal sederhana untuk dibayangkan, agar memahami arah tujuan dari Jalan Kebijaksanaan dan Welas asih.
Saat kita tidak lagi meyakini cara pandang egoistik, maka kita justru menjadi yakin pada potensi kita sebagai manusia.
Dan kita boleh meyakininya, karena banyak orang terdahulu yang telah mencapai 'Kesadaran'(Buddha), dan mereka dapat menunjukkan caranya kepada kita, sehingga bisa bermanfaat bagi diri sendiri maupun orang lain. _/\_
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Cittasanti Anggraini
Your Name in Japanese!
Please fill your name in Japanese and send it to all of your friends
including the person who sent it to you to show how crazy it looks like...
PLEASE PASS IT ON……. DON'T SPOIL THE FUN
A - ka
B- tu
C- mi
D - te
E - ku
F - lu
G - ji
H - ri
I - ki
J - zu
K –me
L - ta
M - rin
N - to
O -mo
P - no
Q - ke
R - shi
S - ari
T -chi
U - do
V - ru
W -mei
X - na
Y - fu
Z - zi
Wednesday, April 30, 2014
Kata Bijak Konfucius
Konfucius seorang Filsuf Cina yang mengajarkan kasih dan rasa hormat dari seseorang, superioritas kepada ambisi, amal, forgivness dan pertobatan.
Jika Anda ingin mendapatkan suatu tempat, Anda harus membiarkan dirimu pergi.
Kata-kata baik dan penampilan menyindir jarang berhubungan dengan kebajikan sejati.
Tahan kesetiaan dan ketulusan sebagai prinsip-prinsip pertama.
Tidak punya teman tidak sama dengan diri sendiri.
Bila Anda memiliki kesalahan, jangan takut untuk meninggalkan mereka.
Orang yang unggul bertindak sebelum ia berbicara, dan setelah itu berbicara sesuai dengan tindakannya.
Belajar tanpa berpikir adalah kerja hilang; berpikir tanpa belajar adalah berbahaya.
Hal-hal yang dilakukan, adalah perlu untuk berbicara tentang ... hal yang terakhir, adalah perlu untuk disalahkan.
Orang yang unggul tidak menetapkan pikirannya untuk apa pun atau melawan apa pun, apa yang benar ia akan mengikuti.
Ketika kita melihat orang bernilai, kita harus berpikir menyamai mereka; ketika kita melihat orang-orang karakter yang bertentangan, kita harus menghidupkan ke dalam dan memeriksa diri kita sendiri.
Kebajikan tidak dibiarkan berdiri sendiri. Ia yang menjalankan praktek itu akan memiliki tetangga.
Orang kebajikan membuat kesulitan yang harus diatasi bisnis pertamanya, dan sukses hanya pertimbangan berikutnya.
Apakah hal kebajikan remote? Saya ingin menjadi saleh, dan anda ! kebajikan adalah di tangan.
Orang yang unggul puas dan terdiri, pria rata-rata selalu penuh penderitaan.
Orang-orang dapat dibuat untuk mengikuti jalur tindakan, tetapi mereka tidak dapat dilakukan untuk memahaminya.
Untuk melampaui adalah sebagai salah karena jatuh pendek.
Perusahaan, yang bertahan, sederhana, dan sederhana yang dekat kebajikan.
Para ulama yang menghargai cinta kenyamanan tidak cocok dianggap seorang sarjana.
Orang yang unggul adalah sederhana dalam pidatonya, tetapi melampaui dalam perbuatannya.
Balasan cedera dengan keadilan, dan kebaikan pahala dengan kebaikan.
Apa yang manusia unggul mencari dalam dirinya sendiri. Apa yang orang maksud mencari dalam orang lain.
Apa yang Anda tidak ingin dilakukan untuk diri sendiri, jangan lakukan kepada orang lain.
Orang yang unggul tidak dapat diketahui dalam hal kecil, tapi dia mungkin dipercayakan dengan keprihatinan besar. Orang kecil tidak dapat dipercayakan dengan keprihatinan besar, tetapi ia mungkin dikenal dalam hal-hal kecil.
Kebajikan adalah lebih manusia daripada baik air atau api. Saya telah melihat orang mati karena berjalan di atas air dan api, tapi saya belum pernah melihat seorang pria meninggal akibat menginjak saja kebajikan
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PENIPUAN KARTU KREDIT ! ! !
Pastikan membaca ke-tiga kasus di bawah ini. Sebuah rangkain kasus yang sangat menarik.
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KASUS 1
Ini modus yang terbaru. Ternyata banyak orang tanpa kita sadari sedang sibuk mencari cara untuk menipu kita.
Seorang teman pergi ke klub fitness lokal dan meletakkan barang-baranya di loker.
Setelah selesai berolah raga dia mandi, keluar, dan melihat pintu lokernya terbuka. Dia berpikir 'Lucu, mungkin saya lupa mengunci loker'.
Dia periksa dompetnya, kelihatan beres - semua kartu kredit ada di tempatnya.
Beberapa minggu kemudian tagihan rutin kartu kredit diterimanya - ada tagihan yang mencengangkan sebesar $14,000 (140 juta rupiah) !
Dia segera menghubungi kantor kartu kredit itu dan marah-marah, berkata bahwa dia tidak pernah melakukan transaksi sebesar itu.
Petugas di sana kemudian melakukan pemeriksaan dan menurut data yang ada tidak ada
kesalahan pada sistem. Petugas itu bertanya apakah kartunya dicuri orang.
'Tidak' katanya, tapi ketika dia membuka dompetnya, mengambil kartu kredit, dan yup - anda bisa menduganya - ternyata kartunya sudah ditukar. Yang ada di dalam dompetnya sekarang adalah sebuah kartu kredit dari bank yang sama yang sudah kadaluwarsa.
Seorang pencuri ternyata telah membuka paksa lokernya di klub fitness dan menukar kartu kreditnya.
Keputusan yang didapat : Penerbit kartu kredit berkata bahwa karena dia tidak pernah melaporkan kehilangan kartu kreditnya dari awal, maka dia harus membayar semua tagihan yang terhutang.
Berapa banyak dia harus membayar barang-barang yang tidak pernah dibelinya? Ternyata ada tambahan $9,000 (90 juta rupiah!) !
Kemudian mengapa tidak ada konfirmasi dari penerbit kartu kredit saat kartu itu digesek?
Pemakaian dalam jumlah yang kecil sangat jarang mendapatkan "tanda peringatan" dari beberapa penerbit kartu kredit.
Jumlah yang besar itu terjadi karena akumulasi dari pemakaian yang kecil secara terus menerus!
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KASUS 2
Seorang laki-laki makan di restoran lokal dan membayar tagihannya dengan kartu kredit.
Kertas tagihan diantar, dia menandatangani, dan pelayanan melihat bon dan memberikan kartu kreditnya.
Biasanya dia langsung memasukkan kartu kredit itu ke dalam dompet. Tapi lucunya dia secara tidak sengaja mengamati kartu kreditnya, dan ternyata yang diterima adalah kartu kredit milik orang lain yang sudah kedaluwarsa.
Dia segera memanggil pelayan itu lagi dan pelayan itu tampak kebingungan.
Pelayan mengambil kartu itu, meminta maaf dan segera kembali ke kasir di ikuti pandangan mata penuh selidik dari pemilik kartu. Dia memberikan kartu kredit kedaluwarsa itu pada kasir, dan petugas konter kasir
segera melihat ke bawah dan mengambil kartu yang
sebenarnya.
Tidak ada kata-kata yang diucapkan --- sama sekali tidak ada! Pelayan mengambilnya dan memberikan pada pelanggan itu sambil meminta maaf.
Kesimpulannya :
Pastikan bahwa kartu kredit di dompet adalah benar-benar milik anda. Periksa nama di kartu setiap kali anda menandatangani setiap lembar tagihan atau jika kartu anda dibawa pergi pelayan dalam waktu yang singkat.
Banyak orang langsung memasukkan kartu kredit ke dalam dompet bahkan tanpa melihatnya, karena
beranggapan bahwa kartu itu memang miliknya.
DEMI KEAMANAAN ANDA, CIPTAKAN KEBIASAAN UNTUK MEMERIKSA IDENTITAS KARTU KREDIT ANDA SETIAP KALI KARTU ITU ANDA TERIMA SETELAH MELAKUKAN TRANSAKSI !
* * * * *
KASUS 3
Ada seseorang pergi ke retoran pizza dan mengambil barang yang pesanannya.
Dia membayar dengan kartu kredit Visa, yang tentu langsung terhubung pada akun pemeriksaan miliknya .
Anak muda yang berada di balik konter mengambil kartu kredit nya, menggesek, dan meletakkan di meja konter untuk menunggu tanda tangan, dimana ini adalah sebuah prosedur standar.
Saat dia menunggu, dia menggambil hapenya dan mulai menelpon.
Si Pembeli memperhatikan hape itu karena dia juga punya dengan model yang sama, tapi tampaknya sedikit berbeda dengan yang ada di pasaran.
Kemudian yang mendengar suara cekrek yang sama dengan bunyi telpon nya jika digunakan untuk mengambil foto.
Setelah tanda tangan selesai dia mengembalikan kartu kembali, sementara itu si pembeli berpikir: 'saya rasa dia sudah mengambil foto kartu kredit saya'.
Anak muda itu melakukan sebuah tipuannya dengan baik, tapi si pembeli telah memperhatikannya.
Tanpa banyak bicara, begitu meninggalkan restoran pizza itu si pembeli lalu segera membatalkan kartu kreditnya dan melapor ke Polisi .
Apa yang ingin di sampaikan adalah : berhati-hatilah terhadap sekeliling anda setiap saat.
Kapan saja anda mempergunakan kartu kredit anda, maka anda wajib selalu waspada dan jangan lengah. Perhatikan siapa yang berdiri di dekat anda dan apa yang mereka lakukan pada kartu anda.
Berhati-hatilah terhadap hape, karena sekarang ini umumnya hape sudah dilengkapi dengan kamera.
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Pastikan membaca ke-tiga kasus di bawah ini. Sebuah rangkain kasus yang sangat menarik.
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KASUS 1
Ini modus yang terbaru. Ternyata banyak orang tanpa kita sadari sedang sibuk mencari cara untuk menipu kita.
Seorang teman pergi ke klub fitness lokal dan meletakkan barang-baranya di loker.
Setelah selesai berolah raga dia mandi, keluar, dan melihat pintu lokernya terbuka. Dia berpikir 'Lucu, mungkin saya lupa mengunci loker'.
Dia periksa dompetnya, kelihatan beres - semua kartu kredit ada di tempatnya.
Beberapa minggu kemudian tagihan rutin kartu kredit diterimanya - ada tagihan yang mencengangkan sebesar $14,000 (140 juta rupiah) !
Dia segera menghubungi kantor kartu kredit itu dan marah-marah, berkata bahwa dia tidak pernah melakukan transaksi sebesar itu.
Petugas di sana kemudian melakukan pemeriksaan dan menurut data yang ada tidak ada
kesalahan pada sistem. Petugas itu bertanya apakah kartunya dicuri orang.
'Tidak' katanya, tapi ketika dia membuka dompetnya, mengambil kartu kredit, dan yup - anda bisa menduganya - ternyata kartunya sudah ditukar. Yang ada di dalam dompetnya sekarang adalah sebuah kartu kredit dari bank yang sama yang sudah kadaluwarsa.
Seorang pencuri ternyata telah membuka paksa lokernya di klub fitness dan menukar kartu kreditnya.
Keputusan yang didapat : Penerbit kartu kredit berkata bahwa karena dia tidak pernah melaporkan kehilangan kartu kreditnya dari awal, maka dia harus membayar semua tagihan yang terhutang.
Berapa banyak dia harus membayar barang-barang yang tidak pernah dibelinya? Ternyata ada tambahan $9,000 (90 juta rupiah!) !
Kemudian mengapa tidak ada konfirmasi dari penerbit kartu kredit saat kartu itu digesek?
Pemakaian dalam jumlah yang kecil sangat jarang mendapatkan "tanda peringatan" dari beberapa penerbit kartu kredit.
Jumlah yang besar itu terjadi karena akumulasi dari pemakaian yang kecil secara terus menerus!
* * * * *
KASUS 2
Seorang laki-laki makan di restoran lokal dan membayar tagihannya dengan kartu kredit.
Kertas tagihan diantar, dia menandatangani, dan pelayanan melihat bon dan memberikan kartu kreditnya.
Biasanya dia langsung memasukkan kartu kredit itu ke dalam dompet. Tapi lucunya dia secara tidak sengaja mengamati kartu kreditnya, dan ternyata yang diterima adalah kartu kredit milik orang lain yang sudah kedaluwarsa.
Dia segera memanggil pelayan itu lagi dan pelayan itu tampak kebingungan.
Pelayan mengambil kartu itu, meminta maaf dan segera kembali ke kasir di ikuti pandangan mata penuh selidik dari pemilik kartu. Dia memberikan kartu kredit kedaluwarsa itu pada kasir, dan petugas konter kasir
segera melihat ke bawah dan mengambil kartu yang
sebenarnya.
Tidak ada kata-kata yang diucapkan --- sama sekali tidak ada! Pelayan mengambilnya dan memberikan pada pelanggan itu sambil meminta maaf.
Kesimpulannya :
Pastikan bahwa kartu kredit di dompet adalah benar-benar milik anda. Periksa nama di kartu setiap kali anda menandatangani setiap lembar tagihan atau jika kartu anda dibawa pergi pelayan dalam waktu yang singkat.
Banyak orang langsung memasukkan kartu kredit ke dalam dompet bahkan tanpa melihatnya, karena
beranggapan bahwa kartu itu memang miliknya.
DEMI KEAMANAAN ANDA, CIPTAKAN KEBIASAAN UNTUK MEMERIKSA IDENTITAS KARTU KREDIT ANDA SETIAP KALI KARTU ITU ANDA TERIMA SETELAH MELAKUKAN TRANSAKSI !
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KASUS 3
Ada seseorang pergi ke retoran pizza dan mengambil barang yang pesanannya.
Dia membayar dengan kartu kredit Visa, yang tentu langsung terhubung pada akun pemeriksaan miliknya .
Anak muda yang berada di balik konter mengambil kartu kredit nya, menggesek, dan meletakkan di meja konter untuk menunggu tanda tangan, dimana ini adalah sebuah prosedur standar.
Saat dia menunggu, dia menggambil hapenya dan mulai menelpon.
Si Pembeli memperhatikan hape itu karena dia juga punya dengan model yang sama, tapi tampaknya sedikit berbeda dengan yang ada di pasaran.
Kemudian yang mendengar suara cekrek yang sama dengan bunyi telpon nya jika digunakan untuk mengambil foto.
Setelah tanda tangan selesai dia mengembalikan kartu kembali, sementara itu si pembeli berpikir: 'saya rasa dia sudah mengambil foto kartu kredit saya'.
Anak muda itu melakukan sebuah tipuannya dengan baik, tapi si pembeli telah memperhatikannya.
Tanpa banyak bicara, begitu meninggalkan restoran pizza itu si pembeli lalu segera membatalkan kartu kreditnya dan melapor ke Polisi .
Apa yang ingin di sampaikan adalah : berhati-hatilah terhadap sekeliling anda setiap saat.
Kapan saja anda mempergunakan kartu kredit anda, maka anda wajib selalu waspada dan jangan lengah. Perhatikan siapa yang berdiri di dekat anda dan apa yang mereka lakukan pada kartu anda.
Berhati-hatilah terhadap hape, karena sekarang ini umumnya hape sudah dilengkapi dengan kamera.
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Suatu hari seorang Raja mendapatkan hadiah 2 ekor anak rajawali yg indah.
Lalu sang Raja berpikir, akan bagus sekali jika rajawali ini dilatih untuk terbang tinggi, tentu lebih indah lagi, ia memanggil pelatih burung untuk melatih 2 rajawali ini.
Setelah beberapa bulan, pelatih burung ini melapor kepada Raja, seekor rajawali telah terbang tinggi & melayang di angkasa, namun seekor lagi tidak beranjak dari pohonnya sejak hari pertama tiba.
Raja pun memanggil semua ahli hewan & para tabib sakti untuk memeriksa rajawali kesayangannya ini, namun tidak ada yang berhasil "menyembuhkan" & membuat rajawali ini terbang. Berbagai usaha telah dilakukan tapi rajawali ini tidak kunjung bergerak dari dahannya.
Kemudian Raja mendapat ide untuk memanggil orang yang biasa "melihat" rajawali dan ia bertemu dengan petani yang sangat mengenal sifat rajawali & Raja meminta bantuan petani itu.
Keesokan harinya ketika Raja mengunjungi rajawali ini, Raja kaget melihat rajawali sudah terbang tinggi. Dengan penuh penasaran Raja bertanya kepada petani: " Apa yang telah kamu lakukan sehingga rajawali tersebut mau terbang tinggi???"
Petani menjawab: "Saya hanya memotong cabang pohon yang selama ini dihinggapinya saja yaitu DAHAN yang membuatnya NYAMAN" !!!
Kita dilahirkan untuk sukses seperti rajawali, ditakdirkan untuk terbang tinggi. Namun, ada yang memegang erat ketakutannya, tidak mau melepaskan ketakutannya & tidak beranjak dari posisinya, terkadang kita terlalu memegang zona kenyamanannya sehingga takut & tidak mau melepaskannya, takut gagal, takut kecewa, takut capek, takut malu, dll.
Satu2nya cara untuk bisa membumbung tinggi adalah keluar dari zona nyaman ! ! ! Tidak ada jalan pintas. Hanya ada 2 pilihan : Tetap bergantung di dahan selamanya atau membumbung tinggi ke angkasa ???
Pesan moral :
Tumbuhkan rasa percaya diri untuk mengatasi rasa takut, gagal, malu, lelah, bangkit dan raih suksesmu !
Lalu sang Raja berpikir, akan bagus sekali jika rajawali ini dilatih untuk terbang tinggi, tentu lebih indah lagi, ia memanggil pelatih burung untuk melatih 2 rajawali ini.
Setelah beberapa bulan, pelatih burung ini melapor kepada Raja, seekor rajawali telah terbang tinggi & melayang di angkasa, namun seekor lagi tidak beranjak dari pohonnya sejak hari pertama tiba.
Raja pun memanggil semua ahli hewan & para tabib sakti untuk memeriksa rajawali kesayangannya ini, namun tidak ada yang berhasil "menyembuhkan" & membuat rajawali ini terbang. Berbagai usaha telah dilakukan tapi rajawali ini tidak kunjung bergerak dari dahannya.
Kemudian Raja mendapat ide untuk memanggil orang yang biasa "melihat" rajawali dan ia bertemu dengan petani yang sangat mengenal sifat rajawali & Raja meminta bantuan petani itu.
Keesokan harinya ketika Raja mengunjungi rajawali ini, Raja kaget melihat rajawali sudah terbang tinggi. Dengan penuh penasaran Raja bertanya kepada petani: " Apa yang telah kamu lakukan sehingga rajawali tersebut mau terbang tinggi???"
Petani menjawab: "Saya hanya memotong cabang pohon yang selama ini dihinggapinya saja yaitu DAHAN yang membuatnya NYAMAN" !!!
Kita dilahirkan untuk sukses seperti rajawali, ditakdirkan untuk terbang tinggi. Namun, ada yang memegang erat ketakutannya, tidak mau melepaskan ketakutannya & tidak beranjak dari posisinya, terkadang kita terlalu memegang zona kenyamanannya sehingga takut & tidak mau melepaskannya, takut gagal, takut kecewa, takut capek, takut malu, dll.
Satu2nya cara untuk bisa membumbung tinggi adalah keluar dari zona nyaman ! ! ! Tidak ada jalan pintas. Hanya ada 2 pilihan : Tetap bergantung di dahan selamanya atau membumbung tinggi ke angkasa ???
Pesan moral :
Tumbuhkan rasa percaya diri untuk mengatasi rasa takut, gagal, malu, lelah, bangkit dan raih suksesmu !
Info Kriminal @ Solo ( 24-25 April 2014 )
Telah terjadi perampokan pd salah satu depot es paling terkenal di Solo dgn modus :
* perampok berjumlah 5-6 org menyamar sbg pembeli yg bersantap / minum es di depot tsb. Setelah bersantap mereka baru beraksi
* Tidak hanya merampok kasir ( pemilik ) , mereka juga merampok pengunjung lain yg sedang bersantap di depot tsb.
* Meski sikon di area itu cukup ramai, namun depot tsb kedap suara & tdk tampak / terlihat dr luar krn kaca jendela yg tertutup film.
* Waspada - Waspada - Waspada !!!
sumber : https://www.facebook.com/andreanto.rosli/posts/10203416225713644
Bijak Memilih Kawan
Ada tertulis :
Siapa bergaul dengan orang bijak menjadi bijak, tetapi siapa berteman dengan orang bebal menjadi malang.
Karena tidak mampu berenang, seekor kalajengking suatu hari meminta seekor kura-kura agar memberinya tumpangan di punggung untuk menyeberangi sungai. "Apa kamu gila?" teriak kura-kura itu. "Kamu akan menyengatku pada saat aku berenang dan aku akan tenggelam".
Kalajengking itu tertawa sambil menjawab, "Kura-kura yang baik, jika aku menyengatmu, engkau akan tenggelam dan aku akan ikut bersamamu. Kalau begitu, apa gunanya? Aku tidak akan menyengatmu karena ini berarti kematianku sendiri!"
Untuk beberapa saat, kura-kura itu berpikir tentang logika dari jawaban tersebut. Akhirnya dia berkata, "Kamu benar. Naiklah!". Kalajengking itu naik ke punggung kura-kura tadi. Namun baru setengah jalan, dia menyengat kura-kura itu dengan sengit.
Sementara kura-kura mulai tenggelam perlahan-lahan menuju dasar sungai dengan kalajengking di atas punggungnya, dia mengerang dengan pedih, "Kamu sudah berjanji, namun sekarang engkau menggigitku! Mengapa? Sekarang kita sama-sama celaka.!"
Kalajengking yang tenggelam itu menjawab dengan sedih, "Aku tidak dapat menahan diri. Memang sudah tabiatku untuk menyengat."
Pelajari karakter seseorang sebelum menjadikannya sebagai kawan. Peran yang dia mainkan akan mempengaruhi kehidupan Anda!
Sumber : https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=627605327321265&set=a.346443935437407.81129.346439915437809&type=1&relevant_count=1
Barusan lewat fly over bandengan arah kota tua.. tengah jalan trnyata ada benang gelasan yg 100% kondisi kencang.. untung ada kacamata.. kalo gak mata sudah kesayat..
hati2 guys yg naik motor.. helm ditutup kacanya..
Sumber : https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10202116476617791&set=a.10200679879623764.1073741856.1364182029&type=1&relevant_count=1
by : Shendy Ang
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HATI - HATI !!!
Modus Perampokan Dengan Benang/Kawat Kembali Marak
Hati-Hati... Peringatkan Teman & Saudara Anda
Perampokan dengan memasang benang/ kawat tajam di seputar jalan sepi kembali marak terjadi. Benang dipasang melintang di tengah jalan setinggi leher atau kepala pengendara sepeda motor. Alhasil jika anda mengendarai sepeda motor dengan kecepatan sedang sekalipun,anda akan beresiko kehilangan KEPALA ANDA, dan perampok akan bebas mengambil kendaraan Anda.
Kabar terbaru ini bersumber dari kaskus yg dengan sengaja kami kopas supaya kita lebih waspada.
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ini kejadiannya beberapa hari lalu gan:
ini kronologisnya
jam 17.00 Ane berangkat kerja pake helm half face (kaca buka tutup)
Lokasi di Fly over kampung Melayu menuju TEBET-KUNINGAN saat cuaca lagi hujan dan kearah jakarta terlihat lengang dan arah ke Bekasi ramai
Nah saat di fly over kp melayu dan tembus turunan kekali ciliwung, ane gak liat ada benang gelasan melintang di tengah jalan yg lalu menempel ke dagu ane gan, ane kira cuma benang layangan putus, ane masih pacu motor, saat itu posisi motor ane 40 km/jam, lama-lama kencang dan...breeeekkkk.... (rasanya seperti dicutter/ disilet) dagu ane sobek dan nadi leher kanan kena...motor jatuh kesamping..alhamdulillah nyawa ane masih selamat.
di saat sadar terkena benang, darah ngucur dan hampir luka tembus ke mulut tengkorak ane...ane lalu cari klinik dan di klinik tak bisa operasi jahit, akhirnya ane ke rs tebet..diantar orang dari klinik hingga darah ngucur, lalu sampai di rs tebet ane dioperasi 11 jahitan dan disuntik mulut, diluka belahan, dan suntik anti tetanus di tangan.
dan ane tanya sana-sini memang daerah ini rawan dan sudah ada yg kena sebelumnya (bahkan suster di tempat ane dirawat pun bilang sudah kesekian kalinya) ternyata ini modus ambil motor. di saat kita sibuk dgn luka hingga pingsan, hati2 barang semua raib...
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KEJADIAN TANGGAL 26 MARET 2014- ARAH PASAR GEMBRONG- FLY OVER KP MELAYU- TURUNAN CILIWUNG MENUJU TEBET
1. Luka ane sebelumnya dalam hingga tengkorak mulut alhamdulillah sudah mulai pulih meski meninggalkan cacat dan sakit jika makan dan bicara, apalagi kalau mau bersin , benang ikut ketarik dan masih keluarin darah.
2. Lokasi ada di atas terminal kampung melayu yg ada fly over ke arah Ciliwung
3. Untuk modus terserah anggapan agan masing-masing...krn posisi benang mengarah sekitar leher dan kepala , tajam kayak silet, dan tegang terikat kiri kanan secara horizontal), tidak menjuntai
4. Waktu kejadian ane ga pingsan, masih sadar, ga ada 5 detik ane langsung ngacir dari TKP, jadi barang tak ada yg hilang, krn ada pengendara lainnya yg bantu nyariin letak klinik
4. Moga Club Bikers bisa bantu mengungkap ini semua, paling tidak modusnya fly over sepi agak sore dan gerimis pulak
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UPDATE: Setelah baca komen kaskuseer secara keseluruhan katanya ini layangan yg putus:
jawabannya salah:
1. pelaku tampaknya sudah mengukur tinggi benang di antara posisi leher dan kepala
2. benang kondisi tegang 100%, sangat gak mungkin layangan putus pastinya dia nyelewer
3. kondisi jalanan sepi banget cuma ane yg lewat yg lain neduh krn hujan
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saran :
Kalo lewat tempat yg sepi jgn lupa siapkan pakaian yg tebal, lilit leher dgn syal tebal, dan helm full face. Klo punya mobil ndak usah ngirit2 deh pke motor, daripada Berabe ky gini.
Sumber : Grosir Alat Kecantikan dan Kosmetik Termurah
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